This one time, my Bestie and I were sitting in a café preparing for an upcoming exam. A lady on the next table overheard our law-speak and asked us what we studied and what our exam was about. She then turned to me and said: “I can’t help but notice that gorgeous ring on your hand. Are you actually engaged?” I replied with- “No I’m not engaged I’m actually married.” Taken aback, she then asked, “How old are you?” I was 22 at the time, and I answered accordingly. “But you’re too young to be married!”- She remarked. Alrightey lady, please excuse me while I go and get divorced then. Do you have any other moulds you’d like me to squeeze into?
In my previous post (“Equality in difference, not indifference to equality”) I talked about a young man who said that women are going down the drain if they’re unmarried by 30. Thus, I was under the impression that I had satisfied some warped social expectation by getting married at 22. Allow me a moment to ponder…Wait, I think I get it now. Ladies, don’t make my mistake. Don’t marry when you’re in love or you think it’s right for you and your partner to do so or any of that nonsense. Get married before 30, but after 22 or whenever else you’re not considered to be ‘too young’. Actually, don’t hedge your bets that way-get married at 29 that way you’re technically not ‘too young’ and you’re still under 30. Phew, so glad I figured that out without having to write a mathematical equation.
While I’m well aware that I went off on a tangent there, hopefully I succeeded in painting a pretty absurd picture that highlights how useless it is to try to live up to society’s deranged expectations.
Coming back to theme of ageism, like Mr. Abraham Lincoln I’ve always thought “…it’s not the years in your life that count. But the life in your years”. Apparently, some people disagree with these wise words. Upon telling one of my relatives that I was spiritual but not religious, she said “Don’t worry, that will come with age”. Well, I’m not worried… about myself, anyway. Nor do I want to become religious with age. I have chosen to be spiritual, but my relative not only dismissed my choice, she attributed it to a lack of experience…experience that can only be acquired with age.
What sort of an environment are we creating for ourselves? If we stifle young people’s ability to have strong opinions and be sure of their own decisions while they’re young, by the time they’re apparently ‘old enough’ to formulate opinions, they might be ‘too old’ to hold such views, or they simply might not know how to have opinions of their own. I guess it’s easier to control the masses, when the masses don’t have opinions.
Although I am new to the blogging world and am completely incompetent at using technology (I only recently learned how to make hyperlinks), I believe that my message of peace and tolerance needs to be heard. To learn a little bit more about my background please read my post titled “A little bit about myself…”. To learn more about why I started this blog, please read my post titled “Introduction…”.