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Equality in difference, not indifference to equality.

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In one of my very first posts, I stated that I am a Russian Orthodox-Jewish-Muslim. In addition to that, I am also happen to be female and I happen to be young, which opens me up to not only racial, cultural, religious etc. intolerance, but also to sexism and ageism. To avoid writing an extremely long post, I’m going to limit this discussion to sexism and tackle ageism in a different post.

I’m going to start off with a little disclaimer. For those of you who don’t know, I am a raging feminist who has no patience for sexism. Let me be very clear here- I don’t burn bras, I don’t hate men and I do not believe that the rights of women should exceed the rights of men. I’d probably support the Men’s Rights Movement (MRM), if they actually stood for men’s rights and weren’t just a negative backlash to the feminist movement (or a peanut gallery who don’t like Mad Max due to a strong female protagonist). I honestly believe that sexism doesn’t benefit either gender in any way and it is just as harmful to men as it is to women. Disclaimer over.

Although we are in the 21st Century, a disparity still remains between the rights, obligations and expectations of men and women. Allow me to highlight this disparity in one simple, yet extremely frustrating example.

It was a close family friend’s birthday. We were all sitting at the table chatting, laughing, eating, and having a good time. I don’t quite remember how, but the conversation had turned to the issue of gender. Everyone was putting his or her 2 cents in and I was just sitting pretty, trying to keep my cool. I failed miserably, and I’m using the defense of provocation. A young man (within the 25-30 age bracket) graced the table with the following comment:

“If you’re a 30-year-old unmarried woman- you’re going down the drain”

I don’t think he thought his comment through very well, because there’d be too many women in the sewerage system and there’d be a clog in the drain in no time. You’d need a lot of male suitors to come and marry those damsels-in-distress to unclog that drain. I mean, really?! Narrowing a woman’s purpose down to marriage? Her only life achievement before 30 can be finding a husband? My rhetorical questions are endless. Unable to help myself, I had to as the young man if he held the same view towards unmarried 30-year-old men. His response was as follows:

 “Single 30-year-old men are like bachelors in their prime…they’re only getting warmed up”

Umm, why can’t 30 year-old women be bachelorettes in their prime that are just getting warmed up? What does ‘getting warmed up’ even mean? Why the double standards? Didn’t these kinds of views die along with the dinosaurs? I’ve asked more questions in this post than I’ve answered and that’s simply because I believe that such outdated views simply don’t merit discussion.

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Although I am new to the blogging world and am completely incompetent at using technology (I only recently learned how to make hyperlinks), I believe that my message of peace and tolerance needs to be heard. To learn a little bit more about my background please read my post titled “A little bit about myself…”. To learn more about why I started this blog, please read my post titled “Introduction…”.

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